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B Gireesh published in Blogs

Nurturing Hearts: The Role of Parents and Grandparents in Developing Empathy in Children

 

EMPATHY – Children, Parents and Grandparents

Princy is a small, cute girl who is always on the go. She used to mingle with others easily. However, she gets emotional over small things. She accidentally broke her friend’s new lunch box while running around the classroom desk. She got scared and started crying. After reaching home, she explained this to Grandma. Princy’s mother became enraged and began scolding her for her careless attitude.

“You’re shouting at a small girl, so why are you shouting at her?” Grandma interjected.

Is this an example of a lack of empathy? Do you believe Grandma’s intervention will have any effect on empathy?

In this case, the need for Princy must be examined.

Mothers’ motives are to be understood.

In addition, the grandmother’s previous experience with similar cases must be considered.

As her grandmother said, Princy, being a small child, needs support and guidance. The mother’s motivation is to correct her child and to have the child be “good” in her opinion (what constitutes “good” is a difficult fact…). The grandma, who is experienced, clearly understood the needs of the child; rather, she was aware of how to handle the child at that point in time.

Experience definitely matters, but in general, especially in the case of parenting, unless we have a guideline, have to wait for occasions to learn and gain experience. For the mother, who is less experienced in comparison with the grandmother, she might not be in a position to think of the needs of the child at that time.

Most of the time, we understand the literal meaning, but we are not always able to implement it whenever we need it. The word “empathy” is used frequently, but very few understand the other person’s emotional condition and motive.

While analyzing an incident, we are only able to understand the action we took and what it was supposed to be. Empathy is more than a feeling of sympathy for another person. So, when we are trying to put ourselves in another person’s place, we are about to understand his feelings and experiences. This is not that simple, but also that difficult.

In parenting, the empathy part can make marvelous changes in the relationship. A secure attachment is about the security, care, and protection of our child. We are less likely to become angry or aggressive if we can cognitively understand his/her point of view. Also, we may not respond poorly to the child. A well-developed emotional empathy makes us well connected with the child’s inner emotional world. A secure parent-grandparent-child attachment will definitely help improve the emotional and psychological health of children, which assures their care and protection.

Role of parents in developing empathy

Parenting is a complex and rewarding job, and having empathy is an important part of being a successful parent. Parents need to be able to understand and share the feelings of their children. This allows parents to relate to their children’s experiences, which helps foster a strong connection between them and their children. Empathy is also essential for providing the love and support that children need to develop into confident and secure adults. Parents who demonstrate empathy are better able to recognize their children’s feelings and provide appropriate guidance and discipline. In addition, children with parents who are empathetic are more likely to develop healthy relationships with their peers and adults. Empathy is one of the most important skills for parents to have in order to ensure their children feel loved and supported.

Role of grandparents in developing empathy

Grandparents play a crucial role in developing empathy in their grandchildren. They provide a unique source of comfort and unconditional love that can help children understand and appreciate the feelings of others. Grandparents can also offer wisdom and insight on social issues, allowing children to gain a better understanding of how their actions can affect those around them. Additionally, grandparents can help children practice the art of active listening and problem-solving skills, which are essential for developing empathy.

Grandparents can also provide grandchildren with opportunities to interact with people of different ages, backgrounds, and beliefs, further enriching their understanding of the world. Ultimately, grandparents can be a lifeline of support and compassion, which can help foster empathy in their grandchildren.

How to develop empathy in Children

To develop empathy in children, consider reading stories that emphasize understanding and acceptance of different perspectives.

Encourage your children to practice perspective-taking by asking them to imagine how someone else might be feeling or how they might view a situation differently.

Spend quality one-on-one time with each of your children, and ensure you ask them open-ended questions.

Model empathy by actively listening to your children and expressing understanding when they share their feelings.

Help your children practice self-awareness by encouraging them to reflect on their own thoughts and feelings.

Provide opportunities for your children to volunteer or serve in their community.

Teach them how to recognize and manage their emotions.

Discuss how to handle disagreements in a respectful and constructive way.

Make sure to show appreciation for your children’s efforts and successes.

Lastly, show empathy to others in your daily life, as parents can become an example for their children.

Few Challenges in Developing Empathy

Developing empathy within a family can present several challenges. Some of the areas I have personally experienced include mood changes in both children and parents, the dynamics of a nuclear family, and the demands of a busy life.

The behavior of parents towards their children may not always align with the children’s preferences, especially in situations where parents make decisions, they believe are beneficial for their children.

Children often encounter difficulties in situations where others do not show empathy towards them.

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Megha Saxena published in Blogs

“The Two Sides of the Parent-Child Relationship: From Despair to Hope

Had a very regular morning today. After sending both the kids to school, I sat down to work. While going through the news, I read about “17 year old committed suicide in Kota.” As I read further, I found out that in the first 20 days alone of year 2025, 4 students in Kota have taken their lives. My heart broke, and I couldn’t help but wonder why these students are driven to such extremes.

I was researching about such news, I tumbled across a story about an “8-year-old boy stuck in an elevator in Faridabad, who stayed calm.” Happened sometime in 2023. This story felt like a ray of hope, bringing a little happiness and peace to my heart. It showed that somewhere, parenting is being done right. When highlighted, such stories can guide and inspire other parents too.

Both these incidents reflect two sides of the parent-child relationship.

My heart aches when I think about what must have been going on in the minds of these 4 students. They must have felt so helpless and lost, with no way out other than ending their lives. They surely must have thought about their parents. Maybe they even tried reaching out, or maybe they didn’t. Perhaps they were trying to avoid their parents’ disappointment or rejection. We will never truly know.

Here, I mention only parents—not the coaching institutes, peers, or society as a whole—because, at the core, every child seeks attention, acceptance, assurance, approval, and acknowledgment from their parents.

Yes, others do play a role. But as long as parents provide unconditional love and unwavering support, the rest doesn’t matter as much. And even if it does, parents are there to guide their child through it.

A simple “I am here for you” can work wonders throughout their lives.

This is probably what the father of that 8-year-old boy told him. He must have said, “If there’s ever a problem, don’t panic. Stay calm. I’ll be there for you. I’ll come and help you.”

That little boy must have felt scared and alone in the elevator and may have even cried. But he calmed down. Why? Because his father’s words stayed with him. He knew his parents were out there and that he didn’t need to worry. He knew he was cared for.

This heartwarming story teaches us such an important lesson. We, as parents, won’t always be physically with our kids, but our words and reassurance will stay with them. Sometimes, children can’t express their needs or struggles. It’s our job to notice their behavior, understand their unspoken words, and keep communicating with them.

A simple “I am here for you. I understand.” is all your child needs to hear.

 

Here are some tips that are easy to implement and can help ensure a healthy relationship with your child:

1) Hugs and Kisses

I always suggest this to all my clients. Showing affection through gestures like hugging, kissing, holding hands, patting on the back, stroking their hair, sitting shoulder to shoulder, or kissing them good morning and good night is incredibly impactful. Many parents don’t realize how important this is. These small acts of love play a crucial role in building a strong bond and attachment with your kids.

2) Listen Without Judging

Create an environment where your child feels safe to talk to you about anything—no matter the situation or problem. They should not fear being judged, criticized, ridiculed, or made fun of. Parents should be their safe space—the people who are always on their side.

3) Spend Quality Time

We all live in a time where our professional lives take up most of our time and energy. And yes, we work hard for our families. But if your work is causing you to lose your connection with your kids, it’s not worth it. Spending even a small amount of meaningful time with your children can make a big difference. Trust me!

4) Praise Efforts, Not Outcomes

Focus on what your child is doing right. Catch them in those moments and shower them with praise and appreciation. Follow the mantra: “What you praise, you increase.” Let your child know that it’s their hard work, sincerity, and dedication that make you proud and happy. That’s all you expect from them. Since results and outcomes are not in anyone’s hands, why worry about them?

5) Apologize and Admit Mistakes

Teach your children that making mistakes, taking wrong decisions, and failing are all normal and common experiences. Share your own stories of mistakes and failures. Show them that what matters is realizing your mistake and finding ways to fix it. The best way to teach this is by example—apologize when you’re wrong, make amends, and say sorry. Your children will learn how to handle mistakes by observing you, dear parents.

 

Driving our kids away, away enough that they are not able to reach out to you when they need. That you are not able to hold them when they are falling, is not what should ever happen. And it is really in our hands as parents to ensure that our children know how unconditionally we love them.

I end this note, with a hope that 2025 is the year where we break all the barriers of communication, develop harmonious inter-dependency, gain trust in the relationship that is of Parents and Children. May we never get to read such heartbreaking stories ever again.

Megha Saxena Valvi

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Vandana Sharma published in Blogs

When Parenting Styles Collide: A Story of Struggle and Hope”

This morning, my phone buzzed for the third time. It was Aanchal again.

Aanchal is one of my close friends, and she’s been struggling in her marriage for quite some time now. Her voice trembled as she described yet another argument with her husband, Rohit.

Their problem isn’t uncommon, yet it feels deeply personal: they both have drastically different approaches to parenting, shaped by their unique childhoods.

Aanchal grew up in a strict household, where rules and discipline overshadowed freedom. Because of this, she has vowed to raise her children with complete liberty, encouraging independence at every step.

Rohit, on the other hand, was raised by a narcissistic father who imposed his authority on everything. Unfortunately, this upbringing has left its mark on Rohit, and he unknowingly exhibits similar traits. He insists on being the ultimate authority, believing his perspective is the only “right” one.

As you can imagine, their opposing styles have created a tense and stressful environment at home. Their children, caught in the crossfire, are starting to bear the emotional toll of their parents’ constant disagreements.

Listening to Aanchal, I couldn’t help but reflect on my own parenting journey. As a mother of a teenage son, I’ve faced my fair share of challenges. I’ve always believed that parenting requires a fine balance of love, discipline, and open communication. Even though my son, Raghav, was born after eight long years of marriage and is the most precious part of my life, I’ve never let my love for him cloud my ability to set boundaries.

Children thrive on clarity and structure, but they also need to feel loved and heard. With Raghav, I’ve made it a point to build an environment where he feels comfortable sharing his thoughts and opinions openly. Whether it’s discussing his daily experiences at school or his aspirations for the future, our conversations are always honest and judgment-free. This openness didn’t happen overnight; it’s the result of years of consistent effort to build trust and mutual respect.

That’s why, when Aanchal called me today, I urged her not to give up on her marriage or her family. I suggested they consult professionals—a marriage counselor to help rebuild their relationship, and a parenting coach to guide them toward harmony in their parenting styles. Sometimes, an objective perspective can help couples see that their differences aren’t insurmountable, and that their shared love for their children can become a common ground for unity.

Parenting is never easy, but it’s not meant to be a lonely journey. Seeking guidance isn’t a sign of failure—it’s a step toward building the life you’ve always wanted for your family. If Aanchal and Rohit can take that first step, I believe they can rewrite their story—not just for themselves, but for their children.

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Anju Rajput Desai published in Blogs

Bonding between Ups & Downs

January 20, 2025

When the pregnancy stick confirms the arrival of a new member, the environment is naturally charged with hugs, kisses, care, and a lot of advice from near and dear ones, more by the ones who don’t even know you! The new Mommy and Daddy eagerly await for tiny troublemakers to come into their lives. And Lo! the day arrives. With the child, parents are also born. With happiness comes a lot of realization that Parenting is not a bed of roses. From breastfeeding to emotion management, the parents learn new lessons every day. Something unique, something for which they are not trained. (The experiences are so unique, that any amount of training may not suffice).

The Child and Parent grow together in the process. Sometimes the journey seems to be smooth like a calm ocean but sometimes it feels like a tsunami that just hit the bottom of the sea. Emotions of anger, frustration, guilt, disappointment, and unmatched expectations splash all over. All people involved are charged up. They love, they want to hold on, they wish to change, yet sometimes, they lose it. That tsunami threatens to disconnect the root from the fruit. It does have the power, but what is more powerful is the BOND between the Parents and the Child.

Parents must invest time and effort in nurturing a bond with the child. A bond that is unshaken even in challenging times.  Life is a journey of Ups and Downs. We all have different personalities and may be subject to thoughts, emotions, and situations of our own. There may be disagreements and differences in opinions throughout the process of Parenting. In the end, what determines the quality of the relationship is the bond that we have created.

So how do we create a strong bond?By spending Quality Time !

A time when a parent and the child are the same. The parent is no supervisor, guide, or trainer, but only a buddy. Having fun together while you play, cook, or in adventures. Being fully present without distractions, even if it is for a short while.Spending happy times together help the family sail through the sad times. Parents must set aside other priorities and focus on this aspect because this is what remains, even when they are gone. When the winds are gentle, make sure you strengthen the raft of your relationship, so when they become rough, you can still reach ashore- TOGETHER !

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Preeti Vohra published in Articles, Blogs

The Hidden Power of Understanding Child Psychology During Exams

“Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up.” — Pablo Picasso.

This quote beautifully encapsulates the fragile yet resilient nature of children. During exams, their minds become a battlefield of emotions, self-doubt, and expectations. As parents, understanding their psychology can transform this stressful period into an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

Exams are not just about testing knowledge; they are also a test of emotional resilience.

For children, the pressure to perform often stems from their innate desire to please their parents and meet societal expectations. This burden, if not managed carefully, can lead to anxiety, low self-esteem, and burnout.

Understanding how your child thinks and feels during this time is crucial to providing the right support.

Child psychology teaches us that a child’s belief in their own abilities is a cornerstone of their performance. When children feel supported and believed in, they are more likely to approach exams with confidence. As a parent, your words and actions have the power to either build their self-belief or diminish it.

Avoid statements like, “Why can’t you study like your sibling?” or “You’ll never get good grades with this attitude.” Instead, focus on affirmations such as, “I see that you are putting up your best efforts and that’s important,” or “You’re capable of overcoming any challenge.” These positive reinforcements can rewire their mindset for success.

Research in child psychology highlights that stress activates the fight-or-flight response, even in children. This can lead to memory lapses, difficulty concentrating, and even physical symptoms like headaches or stomachaches. It’s vital to teach your child that stress is not the enemy. Stress, when managed, is a natural motivator. Share this perspective with them: “Stress is your mind’s way of telling you that this moment matters. Let’s work together to channel it into focus.”

One powerful tool from NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) is visualization technique. 

  • Encourage your child to close their eyes and picture themselves walking into the exam hall, calm and confident.
  • Ask them to imagine writing their answers effortlessly and seeing their name on a results sheet with excellent grades.

This mental rehearsal can help reduce anxiety and instill a sense of preparedness.

Another technique is anchoring, borrowed from NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming).

  • Help your child create a physical anchor for calmness, such as pressing their thumb and forefinger together while thinking of a serene moment.
  • Practicing this regularly can make it a quick go-to during moments of panic.

Resilience Through Communication

Open communication works wonders in understanding your child’s emotional state. Instead of asking, “How much have you studied?” try asking, “How are you feeling about your preparation? Do you need any help?” This small shift encourages them to open up about their fears and concerns. Listening without judgment creates a safe space where they feel valued and understood.

Support Without Pressure

Parents often unknowingly cross the line between supporting their child and pressuring them. It’s essential to remember that every child’s journey is unique. Celebrate their efforts, not just their results. Acknowledge their hard work, regardless of the outcome, and remind them that exams are just one chapter in a much larger story.

As parents, we hold the key to shaping our children’s relationship with exams—and with themselves. Instead of focusing solely on grades, focus on their growth. Teach them that target is learning, not certain % and getting lesser marks is not a failure, let it be an experience and nothing more . Remind them that their worth is not defined by a report card.

In the words of Carl Jung, “Children are educated by what the grown-up is and not by his talk.” Be the calm, confident presence they need during this challenging time. Equip them with the tools to manage stress, and watch as they not only succeed in exams but also in life.

Understanding your child’s psychology during exams is not just about helping them pass a test; it’s about equipping them with lifelong skills of confidence, self-worth,s elf-belief. Let’s turn exam season into a time of empowerment and growth, for both you and your child.
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ArwaAbbas Sunelwala published in Blogs

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*5 Tips to boost your Child’s Academic Success and Motivation*

In today’s time of Mobile games, *“Cheat Codes & Bonuses”* are special combinations that let the Players skip Levels, get hidden Powers and even Win the Game instantly.

As Parents use these *5 Tips as “Cheat Codes& Bonuses”* for guiding your Child through Academic Challenges.

1. Praise your Child’s effort, not just their Results. This will help them to believe that they can improve their abilities through hard work.

2. Show your Child that it’s “OK” to make Mistakes and that failure is a natural part of the learning process.

3. Encourage your Child to view their Studies as a Chance to Grow, not something to dread or avoid.

4. Create a Disciplined Approach with Boundaries for Play, Leisure and other Activities.

5. Celebrate your Child’s Success, whether Big and Small.

Trust this helps you to Spread the Smiles.

By.ArwaAbbas sunelwala.

Be_smartparents.

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Dr. Meena LM published in Blogs

Parenting: The Ultimate Course in Love, Chaos, and Survival…

Parenting is a job with no training manual, no vacation days. The most rewarding unpaid gig you will ever take on and possibly the most exhausting. If you’re looking for guidance, a chuckle, or just reassurance that you’re not alone in this whirlwind.

All in One Role
Parenting is a unique combination of teacher, nurse, chef, counselor, and detective. Your reward is a sticky kiss, a heartfelt “I love you,” and the profound realization that you would do it all over again

Unconditional Love and Patience
There’s nothing like parenting to test your patience. Kids will test your limits in ways you never imagined. One minute, they’re angelically napping, and the next, they’re finger-painting the walls.
But through all the tantrums and messes, there’s an unshakable love that makes it all worthwhile.

The Art of Negotiation
If you’ve ever tried to convince a toddler to eat vegetables, congratulations, you’re qualified for negotiations. Parenting is an endless series of bargains if you eat three more bites, you can have dessert. So, stay calm, stay firm, and occasionally let them win.

Sleep is a Myth
Before kids, you thought pulling an all-nighter was tough. Post-kids, you’ll master the art of functioning on sheer willpower. Babies cry at night, toddlers climb into your bed, and teenagers sneak out. Embrace naps whenever possible.

Embrace the Ride
Parenting is a roller coaster. It’s messy, exhausting, and unpredictable, but it’s also filled with laughter, love, and moments that make your heart swell.

So, if you’re a new parent drowning in parenting drama, remember: You’re doing great. Now, go hug your little chaos-makers and remind yourself you are doing great as a parent.

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Sharmeely Sharma published in Blogs

Nurturing Emotional Intelligence in Children: A Parenting Perspective

Nurturing Emotional Intelligence in Children: A Parenting Perspective

 

As parents, we often focus on academic success, extracurricular achievements, and setting our children up for a bright future. But what about emotional intelligence (EQ)? This vital skill allows children to navigate relationships, understand their feelings, and show empathy toward others. Developing EQ in kids isn’t just a parenting goal—it’s a gift that stays with them for life.  

 

One moment that warmed my heart and reminded me of the importance of teaching empathy happened when my son was in grade three. At the time, he was an energetic boy who loved games and teamwork. One day, he came home and shared a story that left me in awe of his kindness.  

 

During recess, he noticed one of his classmates sitting alone. This boy had been bullied and was left out of the games the other kids were playing. My son observed the situation and, instead of simply walking away or feeling helpless, he decided to act. He walked up to his classmate, struck up a conversation, and then invited him to join his team.  

 

Later, he told me, “Mom, he wasn’t smiling at first, but when we started playing, he was laughing and having so much fun!”  

 

That simple yet profound moment taught me that children are capable of immense kindness when guided to recognize and respond to others’ emotions. It also reminded me of the importance of modeling emotional intelligence at home.  

 

 Building Blocks of Emotional Intelligence

 

So, how can we, as parents, nurture emotional intelligence in our kids? It’s not something we can teach in a single conversation. Instead, it’s woven into everyday interactions, modeled behavior, and intentional teaching moments.  

 

Here are some strategies that have worked for me:  

 1. Model Empathy

Children learn by observing. If they see us acknowledging others’ feelings and responding with compassion, they’re likely to mirror those actions. For example, whenever my kids express frustration or sadness, I make it a point to listen attentively and validate their feelings. This simple act shows them that emotions matter and deserve attention.  

 

 2. Encourage Open Communication

In our home, we have a “talk-it-out” rule. Whether it’s about a bad day at school or a disagreement with a sibling, we encourage our kids to share their feelings without fear of judgment. This practice helps them articulate emotions and understand their own needs.  

 

 3. Teach Conflict Resolution

Siblings often argue—it’s a universal truth of parenting. But these moments can become opportunities to teach problem-solving and empathy. Once, my younger son was upset because his brother took a toy he was playing with. Instead of stepping in to solve it for them, I guided them through a conversation about sharing and fairness. By allowing them to voice their perspectives and work toward a solution, they learned to understand each other better.  

 

#### 4. **Celebrate Acts of Kindness**  

When my son stood up for his classmate, I made sure to acknowledge his empathy and courage. Positive reinforcement can go a long way in encouraging similar behavior. Whether it’s helping a friend, comforting a sibling, or showing gratitude, celebrating these moments reinforces their importance.  

 

5. Foster a Growth Mindset Around Emotions

Children need to know that all emotions are valid—even the uncomfortable ones. By teaching them that it’s okay to feel angry, sad, or scared, we help them develop a healthy relationship with their emotions. For example, when my kids experience disappointment, I encourage them to name their feelings and brainstorm ways to cope or move forward.  

 

The Ripple Effect of Emotional Intelligence  

 

The impact of teaching emotional intelligence goes beyond the immediate family. When children learn to empathize and connect, they create ripples of positivity in their communities. My son’s act of kindness not only uplifted his friend but also inspired his classmates to be more inclusive.  

 

As a parenting coach and teen psychologist, I’ve seen firsthand how developing EQ in childhood lays the foundation for healthier relationships and better mental health in the teenage years. Kids with high emotional intelligence are better equipped to handle stress, navigate peer relationships, and build self-confidence.  

 

 A Call to Parents  

 

Every child has the potential to be a beacon of empathy and understanding. Our role as parents is to nurture these qualities by creating a home environment that values emotional connection.  

 

Let’s remember that it’s often the little moments—a kind word, a comforting hug, or standing up for someone in need—that shape our children’s character.  

 

So, the next time you see your child offer a helping hand or share a smile with someone who needs it, take a moment to celebrate. Because in raising emotionally intelligent kids, we’re not just building better individuals—we’re creating a kinder, more compassionate world.  

 

After all, isn’t that the legacy we all want to leave behind?  

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Salma Rashiyani published in Blogs

Children As Mirror : The Reflections We Can’t Ignore

 

Have you ever looked at your child and wondered, Where did they learn that from? The way they speak, handle frustration, or even express joy—so much of it feels eerily familiar, like watching a mini version of yourself. It’s because, in many ways, they are reflections of us. A child is like a mirror, absorbing everything we say and do and reflecting it back to the world in their own unique way.

It’s easy to forget just how deeply connected our children are to us. In the rush of daily life—school runs, homework, chores—it can be hard to stop and recognize the impact our behaviour has on them. But the truth is, our children are constantly learning from us, not just from what we tell them, but from how we live.

Think back to a time when you felt overwhelmed and found yourself snapping at your child for something small. Maybe you were running late, stressed, or simply exhausted. Later, you see your child mimic the same frustration—perhaps with a sibling or a toy. In that moment, it’s easy to feel guilty, like you’ve passed on a negative trait. But rather than being hard on yourself, what if you saw it as a moment of reflection, a gentle reminder that we’re all human and learning together!

Children don’t just reflect our flaws, though. They also mirror our love, our patience, and our kindness. Have you ever watched your child comfort a friend who’s upset or share something without being asked? That’s you shining through. Every act of kindness they show is a testament to the love and guidance you provide, even on the days you feel like you’re falling short.

It’s important to remember that parenting is not about being perfect. It’s about being present and aware. Our children will have their moments of frustration, just as we do. But instead of seeing those moments as failures, we can use them as opportunities to grow—both as parents and as individuals. When your child reflects back your impatience, it’s a chance to take a breath and ask yourself, How can I do better next time? And when they reflect back your joy, it’s a reminder that the love you give is being deeply absorbed.

Parenting is a journey of constant self-discovery. Our children hold up a mirror not just to our actions, but to our inner selves. They show us the parts of ourselves that need healing and the parts that are already strong. This can feel overwhelming at times, especially when we see our own struggles mirrored in their behaviour. But it’s also incredibly powerful because it gives us the chance to model growth, resilience, and self-compassion.

When you’re feeling overwhelmed, remember that every moment with your child is an opportunity to shape not only their future but also your own. Children are resilient and forgiving; they don’t need us to be perfect, they need us to be real. They need to see that it’s okay to make mistakes, to apologize, and to keep trying. When we show them that, they learn to do the same.

So, the next time your child reflects something back to you, whether it’s their laughter or their tears, take a moment to see the connection. Understand that in raising them, we are also raising ourselves. We’re growing, learning, and becoming better versions of who we are. And through it all, we’re building a bond that is rooted not in perfection, but in love, understanding, and endless possibilities.

Parenting is hard, but it’s also the most rewarding journey we’ll ever embark on. Our children, like mirrors, show us not just where we’ve been, but where we have the potential to go. Let’s embrace that reflection, with all its beauty and imperfections, and continue growing together. Let’s learn and grow together.

– Perfectly Placed Pursuits

 Dr. Salma Rashiyani.

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Sayed Israr Ali Ishaque published in Blogs

Why Young Boys Like Cars

Hi,

In today’s fast-paced world, many children are hyperactive for various reasons. Young boys, especially by the age of 9 or 10, tend to be physically active, filled with energy, and in a crucial stage of brain and body development. While hyperactivity is common, it does not necessarily indicate conditions like ADHD.

One factor worth considering is the limited time kids see their parents reading books. Many parents, especially in South Asian (or “Desi”) communities, are often on their phones. Children naturally mimic what they observe, so they frequently pick up or ask for phones, influenced by what they see at home.

Recently, a parent asked me happywhy young boys are so drawn to cars. I believe this attraction has to do with their high energy levels and the challenge they feel when playing games. Many children today spend time on racing games, which foster a competitive, win-at-all-costs mindset. This may fuel their fascination with cars, speed, and competition.

Additionally, kids may lack exposure to calming activities, as many haven’t observed their parents engaging in practices like meditation, prayer, or yoga. Without these examples of relaxation, children may lean toward high-energy activities instead. Ultimately, their interest in different car models and the thrill of racing is a reflection of both their environment and their developmental stage.

#Happyparenting #Healthyparenting

Israr Sayed

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Dr. Yogita Sharma published in Blogs

6 principals of Appreciation

  1.                          The Power of Appreciation 

                             Series: Courage to Encourage

Appreciation is one of the simplest yet most profound gestures we can extend to others. In a world that often focuses on criticism and pointing out flaws, acknowledging someone’s efforts and achievements can be a game-changer. Whether in parenting, professional environments, or personal relationships, the power of appreciation has a ripple effect, creating positive energy that transcends boundaries.

 

 

 

 

The Transformative Impact of Appreciation

Appreciation does more than lift someone’s spirits—it transforms the environment. When people feel appreciated, they are more motivated, confident, and likely to continue contributing positively. This is true for children and adults alike. Whether you’re a parent encouraging your child, a manager uplifting your team, or a friend offering support, appreciation can turn the ordinary into extraordinary.

Yet, it takes courage to appreciate. It involves looking beyond outcomes and seeing the efforts, progress, and small victories others might miss. But this courage to encourage is a skill worth cultivating for anyone looking to bring out the best in those around them.

 

 

How to Appreciate Effectively

As part of the *Courage to Encourage* video series, I explored ways to make appreciation impactful. Here are some key insights on appreciating others thoughtfully:

 1. Be Specific When Praising

Generic praise, while well-intentioned, often falls flat. Telling someone, “Good job” is nice, but it lacks the depth needed to make them feel truly seen. Being specific in your appreciation makes all the difference. For example, instead of saying, “You did great,” say, “I really admire how you stayed focused during that tough situation and found a creative solution.” Specific praise shows that you’re paying attention and value your effort.

 

 

 

 2. Praise the Effort and Progress, Not Just the End Result

Focusing on the journey rather than just the destination is crucial. Whether someone has succeeded or not, respecting their journey fosters resilience and a growth mentality. A parent might tell their child, for example, “I noticed how much time you spent practicing for the exam, and that dedication is something to be proud of.” This method teaches that efforts are worthwhile and that failures can serve as teaching moments rather than as excuses to give up. Whether someone has succeeded or not, respecting their journey fosters resilience and a growth mentality. A parent might tell their child, for example, “I noticed how much time you spent practicing for the exam, and that dedication is something to be proud of.” This method teaches that hard work is worthwhile and that failures can serve as teaching moments instead of

 

 

 

3. Separate Praise from Correction

Balancing praise and constructive feedback is essential but must be done mindfully. Offering appreciation and correction simultaneously can dilute both messages. If you’ve praised someone and immediately followed up with a suggestion for improvement, the positive message may get lost. Instead, praise and correction should occur at different times to allow both to be internalized. This approach creates a space where people can absorb the appreciation and understand the feedback without feeling diminished.

The Courage to Encourage: Why It Matters

Appreciation is a powerful tool, but it also requires vulnerability. It takes courage to express genuine gratitude and recognize another’s efforts, especially when it’s easier to point out flaws or criticize. But when you choose encouragement over critique, you open doors to trust, collaboration, and mutual growth.

In leadership, whether in the home or workplace, those who encourage others foster environments of safety and creativity. People thrive when they feel supported and valued, and that emotional fuel drives innovation, performance, and well-being.

The Ripple Effect of Appreciation

 

 

 

The power of appreciation doesn’t stop at the individual—it has a ripple effect that extends far beyond. When you appreciate someone, they’re more likely to pass that positivity on to others. Think of it as planting a seed of goodwill; once nurtured, it grows and spreads into something far greater than the initial gesture.

Children who grow up in homes where appreciation is practiced regularly tend to have healthier self-esteem and are more empathetic toward others. Employees in workplaces where appreciation is part of the culture are more engaged and invested in the company’s success.

 Conclusion

In a fast-paced world where achievements often overshadow efforts, taking the time to appreciate others can seem like a small act, but it carries immense power. It’s a tool for transformation, not only in others but also in ourselves. When we dare to encourage, we create a culture of support, growth, and positivity, which benefits everyone involved.

So, take a moment today to express genuine appreciation—be specific, acknowledge the effort, and let the praise stand on its own. You never know how far a little encouragement can go.

This blog reflects the core principles from the *Courage to Encourage* series, reminding us of the incredible impact appreciation can have on our lives and the lives of others. Keep encouraging and watch the magic unfold!

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