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Bonding between Ups & Downs
When the pregnancy stick confirms the arrival of a new member, the environment is naturally charged with hugs, kisses, care, and a lot of advice from near and dear ones, more by the ones who don’t even know you! The new Mommy and Daddy eagerly await for tiny troublemakers to come into their lives. And Lo! the day arrives. With the child, parents are also born. With happiness comes a lot of realization that Parenting is not a bed of roses. From breastfeeding to emotion management, the parents learn new lessons every day. Something unique, something for which they are not trained. (The experiences are so unique, that any amount of training may not suffice).
The Child and Parent grow together in the process. Sometimes the journey seems to be smooth like a calm ocean but sometimes it feels like a tsunami that just hit the bottom of the sea. Emotions of anger, frustration, guilt, disappointment, and unmatched expectations splash all over. All people involved are charged up. They love, they want to hold on, they wish to change, yet sometimes, they lose it. That tsunami threatens to disconnect the root from the fruit. It does have the power, but what is more powerful is the BOND between the Parents and the Child.
Parents must invest time and effort in nurturing a bond with the child. A bond that is unshaken even in challenging times.  Life is a journey of Ups and Downs. We all have different personalities and may be subject to thoughts, emotions, and situations of our own. There may be disagreements and differences in opinions throughout the process of Parenting. In the end, what determines the quality of the relationship is the bond that we have created.
So how do we create a strong bond?By spending Quality Time !
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A time when a parent and the child are the same. The parent is no supervisor, guide, or trainer, but only a buddy. Having fun together while you play, cook, or in adventures. Being fully present without distractions, even if it is for a short while.Spending happy times together help the family sail through the sad times. Parents must set aside other priorities and focus on this aspect because this is what remains, even when they are gone. When the winds are gentle, make sure you strengthen the raft of your relationship, so when they become rough, you can still reach ashore- TOGETHER !
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The Hidden Power of Understanding Child Psychology During Exams
“Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up.” â Pablo Picasso.
This quote beautifully encapsulates the fragile yet resilient nature of children. During exams, their minds become a battlefield of emotions, self-doubt, and expectations. As parents, understanding their psychology can transform this stressful period into an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.
Exams are not just about testing knowledge; they are also a test of emotional resilience.
For children, the pressure to perform often stems from their innate desire to please their parents and meet societal expectations. This burden, if not managed carefully, can lead to anxiety, low self-esteem, and burnout.
Understanding how your child thinks and feels during this time is crucial to providing the right support.
Child psychology teaches us that a childâs belief in their own abilities is a cornerstone of their performance. When children feel supported and believed in, they are more likely to approach exams with confidence. As a parent, your words and actions have the power to either build their self-belief or diminish it.
Avoid statements like, “Why canât you study like your sibling?” or “Youâll never get good grades with this attitude.” Instead, focus on affirmations such as, “I see that you are putting up your best efforts and that’s important,” or “Youâre capable of overcoming any challenge.” These positive reinforcements can rewire their mindset for success.
Research in child psychology highlights that stress activates the fight-or-flight response, even in children. This can lead to memory lapses, difficulty concentrating, and even physical symptoms like headaches or stomachaches. Itâs vital to teach your child that stress is not the enemy. Stress, when managed, is a natural motivator. Share this perspective with them: âStress is your mindâs way of telling you that this moment matters. Letâs work together to channel it into focus.â
One powerful tool from NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) is visualization technique.Â
- Encourage your child to close their eyes and picture themselves walking into the exam hall, calm and confident.
- Ask them to imagine writing their answers effortlessly and seeing their name on a results sheet with excellent grades.
This mental rehearsal can help reduce anxiety and instill a sense of preparedness.
Another technique is anchoring, borrowed from NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming).
- Help your child create a physical anchor for calmness, such as pressing their thumb and forefinger together while thinking of a serene moment.
- Practicing this regularly can make it a quick go-to during moments of panic.
Resilience Through Communication
Open communication works wonders in understanding your childâs emotional state. Instead of asking, “How much have you studied?” try asking, “How are you feeling about your preparation? Do you need any help?” This small shift encourages them to open up about their fears and concerns. Listening without judgment creates a safe space where they feel valued and understood.
Support Without Pressure
Parents often unknowingly cross the line between supporting their child and pressuring them. Itâs essential to remember that every childâs journey is unique. Celebrate their efforts, not just their results. Acknowledge their hard work, regardless of the outcome, and remind them that exams are just one chapter in a much larger story.
As parents, we hold the key to shaping our childrenâs relationship with examsâand with themselves. Instead of focusing solely on grades, focus on their growth. Teach them that target is learning, not certain % and getting lesser marks is not a failure, let it be an experience and nothing more . Remind them that their worth is not defined by a report card.
In the words of Carl Jung, “Children are educated by what the grown-up is and not by his talk.” Be the calm, confident presence they need during this challenging time. Equip them with the tools to manage stress, and watch as they not only succeed in exams but also in life.
Understanding your childâs psychology during exams is not just about helping them pass a test; itâs about equipping them with lifelong skills of confidence, self-worth,s elf-belief. Letâs turn exam season into a time of empowerment and growth, for both you and your child.
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*5 Tips to boost your Childâs Academic Success and Motivation*
In todayâs time of Mobile games, *âCheat Codes & Bonusesâ* are special combinations that let the Players skip Levels, get hidden Powers and even Win the Game instantly.
As Parents use these *5 Tips as “Cheat Codes& Bonuses”* for guiding your Child through Academic Challenges.
1. Praise your Child’s effort, not just their Results. This will help them to believe that they can improve their abilities through hard work.
2. Show your Child that it’s âOKâ to make Mistakes and that failure is a natural part of the learning process.
3. Encourage your Child to view their Studies as a Chance to Grow, not something to dread or avoid.
4. Create a Disciplined Approach with Boundaries for Play, Leisure and other Activities.
5. Celebrate your Child’s Success, whether Big and Small.
Trust this helps you to Spread the Smiles.
By.ArwaAbbas sunelwala.
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Parenting: The Ultimate Course in Love, Chaos, and Survival…
Parenting is a job with no training manual, no vacation days. The most rewarding unpaid gig you will ever take on and possibly the most exhausting. If youâre looking for guidance, a chuckle, or just reassurance that youâre not alone in this whirlwind.
All in One Role
Parenting is a unique combination of teacher, nurse, chef, counselor, and detective. Your reward is a sticky kiss, a heartfelt âI love you,â and the profound realization that you would do it all over again
Unconditional Love and Patience
Thereâs nothing like parenting to test your patience. Kids will test your limits in ways you never imagined. One minute, theyâre angelically napping, and the next, theyâre finger-painting the walls.
But through all the tantrums and messes, thereâs an unshakable love that makes it all worthwhile.
The Art of Negotiation
If youâve ever tried to convince a toddler to eat vegetables, congratulations, youâre qualified for negotiations. Parenting is an endless series of bargains if you eat three more bites, you can have dessert. So, stay calm, stay firm, and occasionally let them win.
Sleep is a Myth
Before kids, you thought pulling an all-nighter was tough. Post-kids, youâll master the art of functioning on sheer willpower. Babies cry at night, toddlers climb into your bed, and teenagers sneak out. Embrace naps whenever possible.
Embrace the Ride
Parenting is a roller coaster. Itâs messy, exhausting, and unpredictable, but itâs also filled with laughter, love, and moments that make your heart swell
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So, if youâre a new parent drowning in parenting drama, remember: Youâre doing great. Now, go hug your little chaos-makers and remind yourself you are doing great as a parent.
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Nurturing Emotional Intelligence in Children: A Parenting Perspective
Nurturing Emotional Intelligence in Children: A Parenting Perspective
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As parents, we often focus on academic success, extracurricular achievements, and setting our children up for a bright future. But what about emotional intelligence (EQ)? This vital skill allows children to navigate relationships, understand their feelings, and show empathy toward others. Developing EQ in kids isnât just a parenting goalâitâs a gift that stays with them for life. Â
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One moment that warmed my heart and reminded me of the importance of teaching empathy happened when my son was in grade three. At the time, he was an energetic boy who loved games and teamwork. One day, he came home and shared a story that left me in awe of his kindness. Â
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During recess, he noticed one of his classmates sitting alone. This boy had been bullied and was left out of the games the other kids were playing. My son observed the situation and, instead of simply walking away or feeling helpless, he decided to act. He walked up to his classmate, struck up a conversation, and then invited him to join his team. Â
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Later, he told me, âMom, he wasnât smiling at first, but when we started playing, he was laughing and having so much fun!â Â
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That simple yet profound moment taught me that children are capable of immense kindness when guided to recognize and respond to othersâ emotions. It also reminded me of the importance of modeling emotional intelligence at home. Â
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 Building Blocks of Emotional Intelligence
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So, how can we, as parents, nurture emotional intelligence in our kids? Itâs not something we can teach in a single conversation. Instead, itâs woven into everyday interactions, modeled behavior, and intentional teaching moments. Â
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Here are some strategies that have worked for me:Â Â
 1. Model Empathy
Children learn by observing. If they see us acknowledging othersâ feelings and responding with compassion, theyâre likely to mirror those actions. For example, whenever my kids express frustration or sadness, I make it a point to listen attentively and validate their feelings. This simple act shows them that emotions matter and deserve attention. Â
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 2. Encourage Open Communication
In our home, we have a âtalk-it-outâ rule. Whether itâs about a bad day at school or a disagreement with a sibling, we encourage our kids to share their feelings without fear of judgment. This practice helps them articulate emotions and understand their own needs. Â
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 3. Teach Conflict Resolution
Siblings often argueâitâs a universal truth of parenting. But these moments can become opportunities to teach problem-solving and empathy. Once, my younger son was upset because his brother took a toy he was playing with. Instead of stepping in to solve it for them, I guided them through a conversation about sharing and fairness. By allowing them to voice their perspectives and work toward a solution, they learned to understand each other better. Â
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When my son stood up for his classmate, I made sure to acknowledge his empathy and courage. Positive reinforcement can go a long way in encouraging similar behavior. Whether itâs helping a friend, comforting a sibling, or showing gratitude, celebrating these moments reinforces their importance. Â
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5. Foster a Growth Mindset Around Emotions
Children need to know that all emotions are validâeven the uncomfortable ones. By teaching them that itâs okay to feel angry, sad, or scared, we help them develop a healthy relationship with their emotions. For example, when my kids experience disappointment, I encourage them to name their feelings and brainstorm ways to cope or move forward. Â
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The Ripple Effect of Emotional Intelligence Â
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The impact of teaching emotional intelligence goes beyond the immediate family. When children learn to empathize and connect, they create ripples of positivity in their communities. My sonâs act of kindness not only uplifted his friend but also inspired his classmates to be more inclusive. Â
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As a parenting coach and teen psychologist, Iâve seen firsthand how developing EQ in childhood lays the foundation for healthier relationships and better mental health in the teenage years. Kids with high emotional intelligence are better equipped to handle stress, navigate peer relationships, and build self-confidence. Â
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 A Call to Parents Â
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Every child has the potential to be a beacon of empathy and understanding. Our role as parents is to nurture these qualities by creating a home environment that values emotional connection. Â
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Letâs remember that itâs often the little momentsâa kind word, a comforting hug, or standing up for someone in needâthat shape our childrenâs character. Â
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So, the next time you see your child offer a helping hand or share a smile with someone who needs it, take a moment to celebrate. Because in raising emotionally intelligent kids, weâre not just building better individualsâweâre creating a kinder, more compassionate world. Â
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Children As Mirror : The Reflections We Can’t Ignore
Have you ever looked at your child and wondered, Where did they learn that from? The way they speak, handle frustration, or even express joyâso much of it feels eerily familiar, like watching a mini version of yourself. Itâs because, in many ways, they are reflections of us. A child is like a mirror, absorbing everything we say and do and reflecting it back to the world in their own unique way.
Itâs easy to forget just how deeply connected our children are to us. In the rush of daily lifeâschool runs, homework, choresâit can be hard to stop and recognize the impact our behaviour has on them. But the truth is, our children are constantly learning from us, not just from what we tell them, but from how we live.
Think back to a time when you felt overwhelmed and found yourself snapping at your child for something small. Maybe you were running late, stressed, or simply exhausted. Later, you see your child mimic the same frustrationâperhaps with a sibling or a toy. In that moment, itâs easy to feel guilty, like youâve passed on a negative trait. But rather than being hard on yourself, what if you saw it as a moment of reflection, a gentle reminder that weâre all human and learning together!
Children donât just reflect our flaws, though. They also mirror our love, our patience, and our kindness. Have you ever watched your child comfort a friend whoâs upset or share something without being asked? Thatâs you shining through. Every act of kindness they show is a testament to the love and guidance you provide, even on the days you feel like youâre falling short.
Itâs important to remember that parenting is not about being perfect. Itâs about being present and aware. Our children will have their moments of frustration, just as we do. But instead of seeing those moments as failures, we can use them as opportunities to growâboth as parents and as individuals. When your child reflects back your impatience, itâs a chance to take a breath and ask yourself, How can I do better next time? And when they reflect back your joy, itâs a reminder that the love you give is being deeply absorbed.
Parenting is a journey of constant self-discovery. Our children hold up a mirror not just to our actions, but to our inner selves. They show us the parts of ourselves that need healing and the parts that are already strong. This can feel overwhelming at times, especially when we see our own struggles mirrored in their behaviour. But itâs also incredibly powerful because it gives us the chance to model growth, resilience, and self-compassion.
When youâre feeling overwhelmed, remember that every moment with your child is an opportunity to shape not only their future but also your own. Children are resilient and forgiving; they donât need us to be perfect, they need us to be real. They need to see that itâs okay to make mistakes, to apologize, and to keep trying. When we show them that, they learn to do the same.
So, the next time your child reflects something back to you, whether itâs their laughter or their tears, take a moment to see the connection. Understand that in raising them, we are also raising ourselves. Weâre growing, learning, and becoming better versions of who we are. And through it all, weâre building a bond that is rooted not in perfection, but in love, understanding, and endless possibilities.
Parenting is hard, but itâs also the most rewarding journey weâll ever embark on. Our children, like mirrors, show us not just where weâve been, but where we have the potential to go. Letâs embrace that reflection, with all its beauty and imperfections, and continue growing together. Let’s learn and grow together.
– Perfectly Placed Pursuits
 Dr. Salma Rashiyani.
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Why Young Boys Like Cars
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In todayâs fast-paced world, many children are hyperactive for various reasons. Young boys, especially by the age of 9 or 10, tend to be physically active, filled with energy, and in a crucial stage of brain and body development. While hyperactivity is common, it does not necessarily indicate conditions like ADHD.
One factor worth considering is the limited time kids see their parents reading books. Many parents, especially in South Asian (or “Desi”) communities, are often on their phones. Children naturally mimic what they observe, so they frequently pick up or ask for phones, influenced by what they see at home.
Recently, a parent asked me happywhy young boys are so drawn to cars. I believe this attraction has to do with their high energy levels and the challenge they feel when playing games. Many children today spend time on racing games, which foster a competitive, win-at-all-costs mindset. This may fuel their fascination with cars, speed, and competition.
Additionally, kids may lack exposure to calming activities, as many havenât observed their parents engaging in practices like meditation, prayer, or yoga. Without these examples of relaxation, children may lean toward high-energy activities instead. Ultimately, their interest in different car models and the thrill of racing is a reflection of both their environment and their developmental stage.
#Happyparenting #Healthyparenting
Israr Sayed
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6 principals of Appreciation
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               Series: Courage to Encourage
Appreciation is one of the simplest yet most profound gestures we can extend to others. In a world that often focuses on criticism and pointing out flaws, acknowledging someoneâs efforts and achievements can be a game-changer. Whether in parenting, professional environments, or personal relationships, the power of appreciation has a ripple effect, creating positive energy that transcends boundaries.
The Transformative Impact of Appreciation
Appreciation does more than lift someone’s spiritsâit transforms the environment. When people feel appreciated, they are more motivated, confident, and likely to continue contributing positively. This is true for children and adults alike. Whether you’re a parent encouraging your child, a manager uplifting your team, or a friend offering support, appreciation can turn the ordinary into extraordinary.
Yet, it takes courage to appreciate. It involves looking beyond outcomes and seeing the efforts, progress, and small victories others might miss. But this courage to encourage is a skill worth cultivating for anyone looking to bring out the best in those around them.
How to Appreciate Effectively
As part of the *Courage to Encourage* video series, I explored ways to make appreciation impactful. Here are some key insights on appreciating others thoughtfully:
 1. Be Specific When Praising
Generic praise, while well-intentioned, often falls flat. Telling someone, “Good job” is nice, but it lacks the depth needed to make them feel truly seen. Being specific in your appreciation makes all the difference. For example, instead of saying, “You did great,” say, “I really admire how you stayed focused during that tough situation and found a creative solution.” Specific praise shows that youâre paying attention and value your effort.
 2. Praise the Effort and Progress, Not Just the End Result
Focusing on the journey rather than just the destination is crucial. Whether someone has succeeded or not, respecting their journey fosters resilience and a growth mentality. A parent might tell their child, for example, “I noticed how much time you spent practicing for the exam, and that dedication is something to be proud of.” This method teaches that efforts are worthwhile and that failures can serve as teaching moments rather than as excuses to give up. Whether someone has succeeded or not, respecting their journey fosters resilience and a growth mentality. A parent might tell their child, for example, “I noticed how much time you spent practicing for the exam, and that dedication is something to be proud of.” This method teaches that hard work is worthwhile and that failures can serve as teaching moments instead of
3. Separate Praise from Correction
Balancing praise and constructive feedback is essential but must be done mindfully. Offering appreciation and correction simultaneously can dilute both messages. If youâve praised someone and immediately followed up with a suggestion for improvement, the positive message may get lost. Instead, praise and correction should occur at different times to allow both to be internalized. This approach creates a space where people can absorb the appreciation and understand the feedback without feeling diminished.
The Courage to Encourage: Why It Matters
Appreciation is a powerful tool, but it also requires vulnerability. It takes courage to express genuine gratitude and recognize anotherâs efforts, especially when itâs easier to point out flaws or criticize. But when you choose encouragement over critique, you open doors to trust, collaboration, and mutual growth.
In leadership, whether in the home or workplace, those who encourage others foster environments of safety and creativity. People thrive when they feel supported and valued, and that emotional fuel drives innovation, performance, and well-being.
The Ripple Effect of Appreciation
The power of appreciation doesnât stop at the individualâit has a ripple effect that extends far beyond. When you appreciate someone, theyâre more likely to pass that positivity on to others. Think of it as planting a seed of goodwill; once nurtured, it grows and spreads into something far greater than the initial gesture.
Children who grow up in homes where appreciation is practiced regularly tend to have healthier self-esteem and are more empathetic toward others. Employees in workplaces where appreciation is part of the culture are more engaged and invested in the company’s success.
 Conclusion
In a fast-paced world where achievements often overshadow efforts, taking the time to appreciate others can seem like a small act, but it carries immense power. Itâs a tool for transformation, not only in others but also in ourselves. When we dare to encourage, we create a culture of support, growth, and positivity, which benefits everyone involved.
So, take a moment today to express genuine appreciationâbe specific, acknowledge the effort, and let the praise stand on its own. You never know how far a little encouragement can go.
This blog reflects the core principles from the *Courage to Encourage* series, reminding us of the incredible impact appreciation can have on our lives and the lives of others. Keep encouraging and watch the magic unfold!
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The Art of Connection: Mastering the Six Principles of Appreciation in Parenting
In our busy lives, fostering a deep connection with our children can sometimes feel like an uphill battle. Yet, the foundation of a strong parent-child relationship lies in effective communication and genuine appreciation. By mastering the art of connection through the principles of appreciation, you can nurture your child’s self-esteem, resilience, and emotional intelligence. Here are six key principles to help you build this vital connection.
1. Be Specific When Praising
Vague compliments can feel hollow to children. Instead of a simple âGood job!â be specific about what you appreciate. This clarity helps children understand exactly what behavior to repeat. For example, say, âI love how you worked so hard on your art project; your attention to detail is impressive!â This not only boosts their confidence but also reinforces positive behaviors.
Why It Matters:
Specific praise helps children recognize their strengths and understand what they did well, encouraging them to continue those behaviors in the future.
2. Praise the Efforts and Progress, Not Just the Results
Children are often result-oriented, but it’s crucial to celebrate the journey. When you acknowledge their effort and progressâregardless of the outcomeâyou instill a growth mindset. For instance, if your child didnât ace a test but studied hard, say, âIâm really proud of the effort you put into studying. Thatâs what matters!â
Why It Matters:
This principle helps children understand that learning and improvement are ongoing processes, reducing the fear of failure and promoting resilience.
3. Praise and Correction Should Be Separated
Timing is everything. When you need to correct a behavior, do it at a different time than when you give praise. For example, if your child misbehaves, address it calmly when emotions have settled. Praise can then be given at moments that showcase positive behavior. This separation helps children absorb both the praise and the correction without feeling overwhelmed.
Why It Matters:
This approach fosters a safe emotional space, allowing children to appreciate your praise without conflating it with criticism.
4. Praise Must Be Genuine and Sincere
Children are perceptive; they can tell when praise is insincere. Always be authentic in your compliments. If youâre struggling to find something positive to say, itâs okay to acknowledge that they tried their best, even if the outcome wasnât ideal. For example, âI appreciate how you put in the effort to try something new, even if it was challenging.â
Why It Matters:
Genuine praise builds trust and strengthens your bond, showing your child that you truly see and value their efforts.
5. Praise in Public, Correct in Private
Public acknowledgment can boost a child’s confidence significantly. Whether at family gatherings, school events, or playdates, take moments to highlight their achievements. Conversely, when corrections are necessary, address them in private. This ensures your child feels supported rather than embarrassed, maintaining their dignity.
Why It Matters:
This balance not only nurtures their self-esteem but also fosters a sense of security, knowing that they have your unconditional support.
6. Accent the Positive
In every situation, try to highlight the positives. When faced with challenges, encourage your child to focus on what went well and what they learned, rather than dwelling on mistakes. For example, if they strike out in a game, remind them of their great teamwork or how they improved from last week.
Why It Matters:
Focusing on the positives encourages resilience, allowing children to navigate setbacks with a constructive attitude.
Conclusion
Mastering the art of connection through these six principles of appreciation can profoundly impact your relationship with your children. By being specific, celebrating effort, timing your praise and corrections wisely, being genuine, recognizing them publicly, and accentuating the positives, you cultivate an environment of love and understanding. Remember, the goal is to build a strong connection that nurtures your childâs growth and self-worth. Start practicing these principles today, and watch as your relationship flourishes, creating lasting bonds that will carry them through life.Continue reading
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Transform Your Parenting in 7 Days: The Proven Power of ACE
Have you ever felt like your efforts as a parent go unnoticed? That the endless sacrifices, sleepless nights, and heartfelt moments just donât seem to resonate with your child? What if I told you that a simple shiftârooted in the power of appreciationâcould transform your family dynamic and create a home filled with love, respect, and connection? đž
The Power of Appreciation: A Time-Honored Secret Passed Through Generations
In every home, thereâs something magical that happens during family gatherings, meal times, or quiet momentsâit’s the silent appreciation that ties us together. But have you ever wondered how powerful this appreciation could truly be when made intentional?
As parents, we often get caught up in the hustle of doing for our familiesâmanaging the household, working, worryingâthat we forget to express our appreciation out loud. This small but impactful shift can be the key to unlocking deeper connections.
The ACE Framework: A Simple Parenting Shift
Introducing the ACE framework: Appreciation, Courage, Encouragement. A simple, easy-to-remember acronym designed to help you nurture your child with intention, using values that have stood the test of time.
1. Appreciation (A)
It starts with appreciation. Every parent loves their child, but how often do we express that love in words?
- When was the last time you said to your child, âI really appreciate how you helped with the chores todayâ?
- Or told your spouse, âYouâre doing such an amazing job balancing everythingâ?
In many homes, appreciation often comes in the form of actionsâpreparing meals with love, doing laundry, or tidying up. But, spoken appreciation can reach the heart faster. Imagine how it feels for your child or partner to hear those words and know they are seen.
Example: Moms
Picture a mother lovingly preparing snacks for her child after a long school day. Now, imagine if she paired it with, âIâm so proud of how hard you worked today. I really appreciate you.â đ The impact of words, along with actions, can create a profound bond.
2. Courage (C)
Next comes courageâthe courage to step out of our comfort zones as parents and guide our children through their own challenges. Parents often avoid discussing difficult topics, be it emotions, fears, or failures. But true courage lies in creating a safe space for our children to express themselves without fear of judgment.
Example: Dads
Many fathers are raised in environments where emotions arenât often discussed. But imagine a dad sitting with his teenage daughter, telling her, âItâs okay to feel lost sometimes. I felt that way too when I was your age, but Iâm here to guide you.â
Feel how this builds emotional trust. Visualize how this courage will help your child open up and face the world with resilience.
3. Encouragement (E)
Finally, we have encouragement. How often do we actively cheer our children on? Beyond academic or extracurricular success, itâs about encouraging effort and the small wins in life.
- When your child struggles with math but tries again, say, âI love how you didnât give upâkeep going!â
- When your child fails an exam, remind them, âThis is just a stepping stone; letâs work on it together.â
Encouragement creates a growth mindset that allows children to believe in their abilities beyond external validation.
Example: Education and Encouragement
In many households, academic success is highly prioritized. But true success lies in nurturing the journey. Imagine telling your child, âIâm proud of the effort youâre putting in, no matter the result. Youâve already won by showing up!â đ The courage to encourage effort over outcomes is the key to raising confident, happy children.
The Challenge: Bring ACE to Your Home Today
Hereâs your challenge, as a parent: Bring ACE into your home for just one week. Consciously appreciate, show courage in difficult conversations, and encourage your child through small moments.
Ask yourself:
- What can I appreciate about my child right now?
- How can I create a safe space for them to talk about their fears and dreams?
- What small efforts have they made today that deserve my encouragement?
How my changed?
When I first started using the ACE framework with my own family, Iâll admit, it felt awkward. As parents, weâre used to doing more than saying. But the results were incredible. My children confidence grew, my spouse and I connected on a deeper level, and our home became more harmonious. Just imagine what this shift could do for you. đĄ
Urgent Action Needed – Letâs Transform Together
The truth is, we have the power to shape our children’s future with these simple steps. The clock is ticking, and the time to act is now. Start today by embracing the ACE frameworkâAppreciation, Courage, and Encouragement.
Want to learn more? Let us connect to implement ACE in your home today! Letâs raise the next generation of confident, courageous, and compassionate leaders. đ±
đĄ Tag a parent or share this post with someone who needs to hear this. Letâs empower families to thrive together! đ
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Strengths Over Shortcomings: A New Approach to Parenting
Parenthood often feels like tending to a gardenâour children grow in their own way, sometimes blossoming in directions we didnât expect, and not always following the structure we try to provide. They seem to operate on their own wavelength, often not aligning with our thought process and guidance. And letâs not even talk about the things they donât seem to do well! As parents, we experience so many life lessons that we want to pass on. We naturally wish for them to follow a path paved with happiness and success, and it can be tempting to focus on correcting their weaknesses. But is this always the right approach?
Rather than focusing on what is missing in our children, what if we shifted our attention to what they are good at? Instead of seeing their shortcomings, imagine focusing on their strengths and celebrating their natural talents. What if, instead of saying, âYou didnât do well in math,â we said, âI love how creative you are with your art projectsâ or âI admire how curious you are about the world around youâ?
Acknowledging and appreciating their strengths not only builds confidence but also encourages them to pursue the things that make them feel good about themselves. We often mistake their lack of certain skills as a flaw, but could it be that we are overlooking the brilliance they already possess in other areas?
For instance, some children may struggle with keeping their rooms tidy, but perhaps they have an amazing ability to build, create, or imagine. Think of great minds like Einstein or Zuckerbergâboth known for their disorganized workspaces. These messes didnât hold them back from achieving greatness. By focusing on whatâs âmissing,â we may unintentionally stifle the creativity and individuality that could lead to remarkable accomplishments.
Itâs time we ask ourselves: Are our expectations shaped by our own desires, or are we truly seeing the unique abilities our children have? By appreciating their strengths, we can help them build confidence and resilience. This doesnât mean we ignore areas where they can improve, but rather, we should create a balance where their self-worth is rooted in their strengths, and their weaknesses are seen as opportunities for growth, not failures.
Parenting is about finding that balance between guidance and freedom. When we shift our focus to appreciating their natural talents, we empower them to take pride in who they are. This approach builds confidence, a growth mindset, and allows them to flourish in ways we might never have imagined. Letâs embrace their individuality, nurture their strengths, and watch them grow into their best selves.
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