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Priti Manoj Karnavar published in Blogs

THE INVISIBLE THREADS: PARENTING BEYOND INSTRUCTIONS

Parenting is often mistaken as a role of teaching children how to live. In reality, it is a journey of learning how to let them live.

Children do not grow only by the food we serve on their plates. They grow by the words we serve in their hearts.

As a parent coach, I have met hundreds of parents who ask the same question:

“What should I do so that my child becomes successful?”

But the deeper question is:

“What should I do so that my child becomes emotionally strong, confident, and happy — even when I am not around?”

Because success without emotional strength is fragile.
A Small Incident That Taught a Big Lesson

A mother once came to me, deeply worried about her 9-year-old son, Aarav.

She said,
“He is very intelligent, but he cries whenever he loses. He cannot tolerate failure. I am scared for his future.”

One day, Aarav was playing a simple board game with his father. He lost.

He threw the dice in anger and shouted,
“I don’t want to play!”

The father did something unusual.

He did not scold him.
He did not lecture him.

Instead, he quietly said,

“I also lost many times in my life. But every loss taught me how to win myself.”

Aarav looked confused.

The father continued,

“Winning makes you happy. But losing makes you stronger.”

That day, nothing magical happened instantly.

But slowly, something changed.

The next time Aarav lost, he did not cry.

He asked,
“Can we play again?”

That was the real victory.

Not of the game.
But of parenting.

Children Learn What We Live, Not What We Say

Parenting is not about controlling behaviour.

It is about shaping belief.

If a child grows in constant criticism, they learn self-doubt.

If a child grows in comparison, they learn insecurity.

If a child grows in fear, they learn to hide their truth.

But


If a child grows in acceptance, they learn confidence.

If a child grows in patience, they learn emotional strength.

If a child grows in trust, they learn self-worth.

Children are always watching.

Not your instructions.
But your reactions.

The Greatest Gift Is Emotional Safety

Every child needs one place in the world where they can fail without fear.

That place is called — Home.

When a child comes to you with a mistake, they are not just sharing an incident.

They are testing a question in their heart:

“Am I safe with you?”

If the answer is yes, they grow fearless.

If the answer is no, they grow distant.

Many parents unknowingly break this safety in the name of discipline.

Discipline is important.

But connection is more important.

Because a connected child listens more than a controlled child.

The Silent Pressure of “Being Perfect”

Today’s children are growing in a world of constant pressure.

Marks.
Performance.
Competition.
Expectations.

They are taught how to achieve.

But rarely taught how to cope.

They are trained for success.

But not prepared for failure.

And this is where parenting becomes crucial.

Your child does not need you as a coach all the time.

Sometimes, they need you as their safe place.

A place where they can remove their mask.

A place where they don’t have to prove anything.

A place where they are loved — not for their performance, but for their presence.
Confidence Is Not Built by Praise Alone

Many parents believe constant praise builds confidence.

But real confidence is built when a child learns:

“I can handle difficult emotions.”

Not when life is easy.

But when life is hard.

When a child falls and you say,

“I trust you. You will figure it out.”

You are not just comforting them.

You are strengthening their inner voice.

And that voice stays with them forever.
The Parent’s Real Role

You are not raising a child.

You are raising a future adult.

One day, they will face rejection.

They will face failure.

They will face disappointment.

And on that day, they will not remember your lectures.

They will remember your belief.

They will remember how you made them feel about themselves.

Because children carry their parents’ voice inside their mind for life.

Make sure it is a voice that says:

“You are capable.”
“You are enough.”
“You can rise again.”
A Final Thought From the Heart

Years later, Aarav grew into a confident teenager.

His mother once told me something beautiful.

She said,

“Earlier, I was trying to make my son strong.

Now I realise


I just needed to stop making him feel weak.”

That is parenting.

Not adding strength.

But removing fear.

Not forcing growth.

But allowing becoming.
Because in the end


Children do not remember every toy you bought.

They remember


How you listened.

How you trusted.

How you stayed.

And how you believed in them


Even when they did not believe in themselves.

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Dr. Susmita Kumari rout published in Articles, Blogs, Community, Inspiration, News,

Raising Humans, Not Report Cards: A Gentle Look at Child Development

Understanding Child Development: A Parenting Coach’s Perspective

If there’s one thing I’ve learned from years of working with families, it’s this: child development isn’t a straight line. It doesn’t move neatly from one milestone to the next. It’s messy, emotional, beautiful, and sometimes deeply confusing. Parents often come to me worried. “Is my child behind?” “Why is she suddenly so emotional?” “He was so cooperative before — what happened?” The truth is, development is not just about height, weight, or academic progress. It’s about the slow shaping of a human being — their thinking, emotions, behavior, relationships, and sense of self. And that shaping happens in layers.

Development Is More Than Milestones

We tend to measure children by visible markers: first words, first steps, first report card. Those matter, of course. But underneath those milestones, something far more important is happening. A toddler learning to walk is not just building muscle strength. They’re building confidence. A preschooler asking “why” for the hundredth time isn’t being difficult. They’re wiring their brain for curiosity. A teenager challenging rules isn’t rejecting you. They’re forming an identity. When we reduce development to checklists, we miss the deeper story.

Emotional Development: The Foundation We Often Overlook

In my sessions, I often see parents focus heavily on academics. “How do I improve focus?” “How do I make my child score better?” But before concentration and performance comes emotional safety. A child who feels safe — truly safe — learns better. They take risks. They bounce back from failure. Emotional development begins long before children can explain their feelings. It begins when a baby cries and someone responds. It grows when a parent names a feeling: “You’re upset because your toy broke.” It strengthens when a child’s emotions are acknowledged instead of dismissed. Children don’t need perfect parents. They need emotionally available ones.

Cognitive Growth Happens in Everyday Moments

We sometimes imagine learning as something that happens at a desk. But real cognitive development happens while cooking together, solving sibling conflicts, building with blocks, or even getting bored. Yes, bored. Boredom pushes creativity. It nudges problem-solving. It invites imagination. When every moment is filled with structured activity, we unintentionally rob children of the chance to think independently. Simple conversations at dinner can strengthen reasoning skills more effectively than extra worksheets.

Social Skills Start at Home

Before children learn how to make friends, they learn how to relate to you. Do they feel heard? Do they feel respected? Do they see conflict handled calmly? Children absorb patterns. The way we handle stress, disagreement, and apology becomes their blueprint. If we shout, they learn shouting. If we listen, they learn listening. This doesn’t mean we never lose patience. It means we repair when we do. Repair is one of the most powerful tools in development. A simple “I’m sorry I raised my voice” teaches accountability better than a lecture ever could.

Every Child Has a Unique Timeline

One of the hardest things for parents today is comparison. Social media makes it worse. It feels like every child is reading early, speaking confidently, winning medals. But development is not a race. Some children bloom early. Others take their time and then surge ahead in unexpected ways. I’ve seen quiet children grow into strong leaders. I’ve seen academically average students develop remarkable emotional intelligence that carries them further than grades ever could. When we rush children to meet external standards, we risk disconnecting from who they actually are.

What Children Really Need

After all the research, theories, and frameworks, the core needs are surprisingly simple:
  • Consistent love
  • Clear boundaries
  • Emotional validation
  • Opportunities to explore
  • Space to fail safely
Notice that none of these mention perfection. Children thrive not because their parents do everything right, but because they feel secure enough to grow.

A Gentle Reminder for Parents

Child development is not a project to manage. It’s a relationship to nurture. There will be phases that test you. Regression after progress. Big emotions out of nowhere. Sudden independence that feels like rejection. Take a breath. Often, what looks like misbehavior is growth in disguise. What feels like defiance is a child practicing autonomy. What seems like clinginess is a need for reassurance during change. If you stay curious instead of reactive, you will see development unfolding right in front of you. And here’s something I tell every parent I work with: You are developing too. As your child grows, so do you. Your patience stretches. Your understanding deepens. Your triggers surface. Parenting is not just about raising a child — it’s about refining yourself alongside them. So instead of asking, “Is my child developing correctly?” perhaps ask, “Am I creating an environment where development feels safe?” That question changes everything.
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Dr B R Aruna Reddy published in Blogs

This Child Is Problematic
Or Are We Missing the Real Problem?

We often hear parents and teachers say; “He/ she is an adamant child.” “He disturbs the whole class”. “She never finishes her work”. He is rude to others.

But rarely do we stop for a second and ask: This begs the question: Why is this child acting in such a manner? Behaviour, according to psychology, is never haphazard. It is never random and is based on past experiences, present environment and future needs. Builders like John Bowlby and Abraham Maslow have shown that there are always human needs that are not being met and that this influences behaviour greatly. All children have different stories. The children have different experiences. Every child is different; If perceptions are different, then behaviour will also be different.

Behaviour Is Communication – Theories of Behaviour Control

“. Adamant may be seeking autonomy. Disturbing the class may be seeking attention or recognition Avoiding work may be incompetence or fear of failure. Disrespectful behavior may carry hurt, anger, or an unmet emotional need.

The question is not:
“How do we stop this behaviour?”

The real question is:
“What need is this behaviour expressing?”

Understanding the Core Needs of Children

To guide children effectively, parents and teachers must be aware of three major categories of needs:

  1. 1. Physical Needs Adequate sleep Diet/Nutrition Play and movement Regulating sensory A sleep-deprived or overstimulated child is incapable of emotional regulation.
  2. 2. Emotional Needs Love and belongingness Unconditional acceptance Emotional validation Attachment without fear Behaviour becomes defensive when a child feels emotionally unsafe.
  3. Psychological Need Autonomy (freedom to choose within limits) Competence (need to feel capable) Appreciation Esteem Predictability and security Children may develop the following when these needs are overlooked Self hatred ,Aggressiveness ,Social withdrawal, Anxiety ,Rebellion.

 

The Role of Parents and Teachers

Controlling unacceptable behaviour is not about punishment. It is about providing guidance. And guidance is possible only when the adults develop:

  1. 1. Listening Skills Rather than listening to understand, most adults listen to respond. The child will talk more with the parent if he/she feels listened to, and not judged. Instead of; “Stop arguing!” Children tend to open up better with them when they are not judged but listened to. Resistance reduces when one listens.
  2. 2. Patience : Emotional regulation is a learned skill, not something that a person is born with. Thus, if adults react impulsively, children learn to be impulsive. On the contrary, if adults respond calmly, their children learn to regulate themselves. Children borrow adult’s nervous system.
  3. Positive Communication Positive communication refers to Correcting behaviour without assaulting identity, Separating the child from the behaviour, Respectful tone and body language. Not to; “You are lazy. Say “I see your homework is incomplete. Let’s figure out what made it difficult today.”

Don’t label, guide. Repeated labelling creates identity; Children begin to behave according to the label given to them.

Why Is Awareness Declining Today?

Nowadays: Nuclear families diminish shared caregiving. Parents are busy and their brains tired. Patience is at a premium. Social networks take away emotional attention. Preferring quick fixes over comprehensive understanding.

We want instant results, but child development is not instant. Children need some time. Relationships require presence.

The Long-Term Impact of Mishandling Behaviour

When adults; Blame, Label, Compare, Shame, React harshly; However, the child will obey only for a while. But internally, they may end up with: Low self-confidence, Repression of emotions, Obedience based on fear, Low confidence, Resentment. These unresolved emotional patterns resurface later, either during adolescence or adulthood.

So, How Can We Truly Understand Children?

Ask three questions to yourself;

Ask yourself three questions:

  1. What might this child be feeling?
  2. What need could be unmet?
  3. How can I respond instead of react?

When Adults get trained in Child psychology, Emotional regulation, Positive communication, Need-based behavioural analysis. It becomes easier to raise the child.

Final Reflection

Children are not hard to deal with. Unmet needs are hard. Behaviour is a signal, not a personal attack. If we shift from controlling children to understanding them, to labelling to listening, from reacting to responding. We will simply not correct behaviour We will raise emotionally strong adults.

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Mahrukh Rana published in Articles, Blogs

04 Best Parenting Tips to Calm Down Any Toddler in 1 Minute.

04 Best Parenting Tips to Calm Down Any Toddler in 1 Minute.

How can you get your kids to stop throwing tantrums? Well, I have good news for you. If you follow some tips from education experts and trusted parenting sources, you can stop your kids from whining, begging, and going wild for no particular reason.

Let’s understand the reason behind throwing tantrums and how you can handle them.

Why Do Kids Throw Tantrums?

More than half of kids let their frustration out at least once a week, or more often. Why do they do it? They can whine to get a new toy, an extra candy, or some other unhealthy snack.

Or maybe they just want your attention or are testing limits.

Yes, they have no idea what limits are, but they can still figure out that crying loudly can bring them a treat, so why not do it?

04 Best Parenting Tips to Calm Down Any Toddler in 1 Minute.

04 Best Parenting Tips to Calm Down Any Toddler

By the time they turn 3 or 4, kids have much better language skills than babies, of course, but their vocabulary is not yet advanced enough to describe everything they feel.

So, here’s what you can do to prevent your kids from going crazy now and then.

1) Make Your Child Feel Comfortable.

As we already know, kids often whine for a reason, and you can neutralize that reason before going out shopping or wherever you have to go with your little one.

Make sure they are prepared for it, which means they have enough sleep and food, and you have everything they might need with you.

It won’t hurt to take a toy to the grocery store, and it might save your child from begging for another one.

If you are going out for a longer time, take their favorite blanket with you; it will give them a feeling of home and safety.

When you are a parent, you tend to take plenty of stuff with you even when you leave the house for an hour.

If someone is making fun of you, let them know that the most important thing is that you both will be comfortable and prepared for whatever may come your way.

2) Let Your Toddler Choose

It is a good idea to let your child choose. We are not talking about making life-defining decisions like which house to move into or where to go on vacation.

Start with little things that will make him or her feel like they are in control. Control also means responsibility. They will, of course, not know it just now, but they will see how their choices affect what they do and how they feel.

You can also go smart about it and direct your child where you want them to be; just give them an alternative where both opinions are good.

For example, you can wake them up in the morning and ask them to choose if they want to get dressed first or brush their teeth. They will have to do both eventually, but this way they will feel like they are given some choice.

3) Find Out What’s Really Bothering Your Kid.

This is especially important for kids under 2 and 1/2. At this age, they have a vocabulary of around 50 words and can’t build a sentence out of them, but they still have cravings, thoughts, and wishes they can’t just announce to you. You don’t get a message; they don’t get the answer, so what do they do? throw a tantrum.

Try to create a sign language your kid will understand and remember; teach them to show basic words like food, milk, and so on. It can work miracles.

4) Distract Your Little One.

You know how when you feel sad or something is bothering you? Going out with friends or reading a book can help you set your mind on other things, and it gets better. Your child will unlikely be getting over a breakup or job, but they have their own concerns. As we know, when you feel danger is coming, the baby’s face starts getting red. Or they are giving other signs or tantrums.

  • Ask them, Let’s go for a walk.
  • How about we read your favorite book?

These are all great ways to divert your child’s fleeting attention; even telling a little joke or making a funny face can help.

Final Thought

I saw that parents don’t pay attention to their kids’ behavior; instead, they start getting overwhelmed. Remember! Your child is your responsibility. Try to understand what they are going through.

Found this article helpful? Clap and share your thoughts in the comment section. Don’t forget to share it with your friends to help them in their parenting journey.

Email me at mahrukh_rana@outlook.com for any queries.

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Megha Saxena published in Blogs

Prepping Parents for Pre-schools

Good Morning, everyone!

It’s April, and in most schools, the new academic session begins. For many three-year-olds, today marks their very first day of school. The day is filled with a mix of anxiousness and excitement—not just for parents and children but also for teachers, caregivers, and school staff.

We all know that kids catch viral infections like colds, coughs, or stomach bugs quickly due to their developing immunity. The sources can be anything—school, the bus they travel in, weather changes, or exposure to a new environment. But do you know what they catch even faster? Negative emotions—fear, anxiousness, worry, uncertainty, sadness. And the primary source of these emotions is none other than the parents.

The good news? There’s something else they catch even quicker—positive emotions like happiness, calmness, confidence, and certainty. And when these emotions come from parents, they multiply and deeply influence the child’ mental well being.

Dear Parents, Here’s What You Can Do

Before worrying about your child’s emotional state, work on becoming aware of your own emotions and managing them. Children pick up on your energy, so make sure you’re passing on confidence and assurance rather than fear and doubt.

  1. Managing Separation Anxiety

Parents also feel separation anxiety. Thoughts like “How will my child stay without me? Will they eat properly? Will they ask for help when needed? How will they adjust to the new environment and people?” are completely normal. But trust me, children—just like us, or perhaps even better than us—adjust to new environments when given the chance.

✅ Tools to Help:

  • Practice short separations by leaving them with trusted caregivers before school starts. This gives both you and your child an idea of how they handle separation.

🗹 Helpful Dialogues:

  • “Yes, beta, I will miss you too! I will keep thinking about you. Why don’t we exchange something? You take my handkerchief, and I’ll keep your toy. Whenever we miss each other, we can look at these things and smile!”
  1. Adjusting to a New Environment

Yes, the school is a new place for your child, but you have chosen it after careful research and reviews. Trust the process and feel confident about your decision. Once you are sure, do not let doubt creep in again.

✅ Tools to Help:

  • Take your child for a school visit beforehand. Let them explore their classroom, meet the teacher, and get comfortable with the space.
  • Make a mental checklist of things that are important to you in school, and ensure they meet your expectations during the visit.

🗹 Helpful Dialogues:

  • “I love your classroom! It looks so nice and colorful. Your teacher seems really kind. You’re going to have such a good time here!”
  1. Trusting Teachers & Caregivers

The teacher in pre-schools are well trained, from time to time, and do have a lot of experience in managing a child on their first few days of school. So when you hand over your child, the child should feel your comfort and confidence during the bye-bye time. Parents usually use words of encouragement like “the teacher is so nice” “she will be there to take care of you” “look there are so many other kids” “ you will enjoy with the toys and games” etc. All good, all nice. But then you still linger around. Your face says something else, like you really don’t mean those words, that you doubt whether they are really nice people or not to stay with. So the kids will get confused. Like I said, they will pick up your emotion of fear, doubt, anxiousness and may start crying. which inturn will now add to your doubts. The cycle goes on!

✅ Tools to Help:

  • Create a goodbye ritual to make parting easier. For example, I always hug my kids and say, “Enjoy your day!” and they reply, “Yes, I will!” Then I turn around and leave.

🗹 Helpful Dialogues:

  • “I’ve heard so many good things about your teacher. I think she’ll be wonderful! You tell me what you think about her when you come back.”
  1. Socializing with Classmates

Parents often worry about how their child will get along with other kids. Remember, all children in the class are of the same age and likely experiencing similar anxieties. They will gradually learn important social skills like sharing, waiting for turns, following instructions, and understanding that they are not always in control.

✅ Tools to Help:

  • Encourage open conversations about their day.
  • Ask open-ended questions instead of just “So how was school today?”

🗹 Helpful Questions:

  • “What was the most exciting part of school today?”
  • “What made you laugh?”
  • “How do you sit when you eat your snacks?”
  1. Preparing Your Child Emotionally

The way you talk about school makes a huge difference. Share positive stories about your own school days. If your child is reluctant, acknowledge their feelings while reinforcing the importance of going to school.

✅ Tools to Help:

  • Empathize while keeping it light. My younger one hated school and cried every morning. I would say: “I understand you don’t like school, beta. But it’s important—just like my office is important. How I wish we could stay home all day cuddling! But alas, we can’t. So let’s go, and we’ll look forward to the evening together.”
  • Teach them independence in small ways—washing hands, eating on their own, keeping track of their belongings, asking for help when needed.
  1. Establishing a Smooth Routine

A predictable routine makes transitions easier. School mornings should be calm, not chaotic.

✅ Tools to Help:

  • Align your child’s sleep schedule with school timings at least a month in advance.
  • If your child takes time to wake up and get ready, wake them 15 minutes earlier. A little less sleep is better than a rushed, stressful morning.

A child who leaves for school happily, not hurriedly,will have a better day overall. They can always catch up on sleep later!

Final Thought: The first few days might be challenging, but trust that your child will settle in. Your confidence, positivity, and trust in the school will make all the difference. Let them go, and watch them thrive!

 

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Dr B R Aruna Reddy published in Articles, Blogs

The Life of Future Kids: A Glimpse into the Changing Times

As parents, we often find ourselves asking questions that seem to echo through the corridors of time:

Where is the time going?

Why are our children so busy yet not productive?

What is it that’s keeping them occupied all day?

When will they become responsible and independent?

These are the concerns that shape our parenting choices, as we try to ensure our children grow up to be successful, balanced, and content individuals.

But, when I take a moment to reflect on my own childhood, the questions become even more profound. Was I too busy back then? I remember a time when my day was filled with simple joys—playing outside with friends, spending time with family, learning new skills, and simply being in the moment. Time seemed abundant, and life was a balanced blend of studies, hobbies, and relationships. I would gaze at the stars, try to locate constellations, and engage in endless conversations with loved ones.

The Simplicity of the Past vs. the Frenzied Present
In contrast, today’s kids seem to be caught in an endless cycle of commitments—online courses, offline classes, sports, hobbies, social media, and the constant pressure to excel in everything they do. As parents, we push our children to take part in every activity that promises to enhance their future, from life skills training to tennis lessons, and summer camps to coding classes. But as we enroll them in these programs, I can’t help but wonder: Did we need all these structured courses when we were growing up?

Life skills, problem-solving, creativity—these weren’t things we learned from a textbook or from an expert. We picked them up naturally through experiences, challenges, and simply interacting with our surroundings. We didn’t need to attend a specialized workshop to figure out how to manage our time or resolve a conflict. These skills developed through the very act of living life.

So, what does this mean for the future of our children? Are we inadvertently pushing them into a future that values productivity over peace, achievement over joy? Perhaps it’s time to rethink how we approach parenting in this modern age. Instead of constantly pushing our children toward the next course or the next milestone, maybe we need to encourage them to slow down, enjoy the present, and find fulfillment in the things that truly matter—relationships, personal growth, and emotional well-being.

As parents, it’s our responsibility to guide our children toward success. But success isn’t just about acing a test or winning a competition. It’s about finding contentment, creating lasting connections, and discovering the simple joys that life offers.
In the end, maybe the greatest life skill we can teach our children is how to truly live—to embrace life as it comes, with all its ups and downs, and to cherish the moments that often go unnoticed in the rush toward the future.

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Pooja Kansal published in Blogs

Mom’s guilt

Becoming a mom changes everything, but one of the most empowering things a mom can do is gain financial independence. It’s not just about making money—it’s about having the freedom to make decisions for yourself and your family without relying on anyone else.

In the journey from “Mom to Ma’am,” financial independence is like a key that unlocks a whole new world. It allows you to balance both being a mom and following your own dreams and goals. It’s about creating a life where you don’t have to choose between taking care of your kids and achieving your own personal success.

Taking Control of Your Life

When you’re financially independent, you have the power to make choices that are right for you and your family. Instead of depending on someone else for your financial security, you’re in charge of your own future. You can decide what career path you want to take, whether you want to start a business, or even just what’s best for your family in the long run. Financial independence means freedom. It means not having to ask for permission to follow your passions or make big life decisions.

One of the hardest things moms deal with is mom guilt. Whether it’s guilt about working too much or not spending enough time with the kids, it’s always there. But when you’re financially independent, you can learn to let go of that guilt. You’re not just doing it for yourself—you’re doing it for your family too. Showing your kids that you can balance both career and family teaches them important lessons about work, responsibility, and passion.

Financial independence for moms isn’t just about having more money; it’s about freedom. It’s about being able to make decisions that serve you and your family’s future. When a mom becomes financially independent, she gains confidence, control, and the ability to chase her own dreams while still being the loving, dedicated mom she always was.

So, as you go through your own journey from “Mom to Ma’am,” remember that you don’t have to choose between being an amazing mom and achieving your personal goals. You can do both—and financial independence is the key to unlocking that power.

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Pooja Kansal published in Blogs

The Power of Motherhood: How It Changes Us

The Power of Motherhood: How It Changes Us

Motherhood is a huge life shift. It’s not just about caring for a child—it’s about how becoming a mom transforms us from the inside. The moment we step into the role of “mom,” everything changes, and not just in our daily routines. It changes who we are, how we see ourselves, and what we believe we’re capable of.

The Moment Everything Shifts

When you become a mom, it feels like a switch flips. One minute, you’re just you. The next, you’re responsible for another person. Whether it’s the first time you hold your baby or the first sleepless night, that moment hits you hard. And while it’s overwhelming, it’s also the start of discovering a new side of yourself. You might find yourself feeling more patient, more protective, and sometimes even stronger than you ever knew you could be.

Reclaiming Your Identity as a Mom

The transition to motherhood often makes us feel like we’ve lost ourselves a little. It can feel like everything you do is for your kids, and it’s easy to forget who you are outside of that. But here’s the truth: you’re still you. Being a mom doesn’t mean losing yourself—it just means you’re now balancing a new role with your old one. It’s about figuring out how to be both “mom” and “you” at the same time.

And you know what? That balance isn’t always easy, but it makes us grow in ways we didn’t expect. You find yourself discovering a new layer of strength, patience, and love—one that makes you realize you can handle more than you ever thought possible.

The Emotional Rollercoaster

Motherhood brings with it a wave of emotions. There are days filled with joy—like when your baby says their first word or learns to walk. Then, there are moments when you’re worried about everything, questioning whether you’re doing it right. But all these emotions are what make being a mom so powerful. The love you feel is deeper than you ever thought you could experience, and it’s all-consuming at times. And with that love comes a protective instinct you can’t quite explain, but it’s real.

That emotional rollercoaster is exhausting, but it’s also what makes motherhood so meaningful. You learn so much about yourself and your capacity to love, give, and grow.

The Unspoken Bond

There’s something about the bond between a mother and child that’s hard to describe—it’s just different. From the first time you hold your baby, you realize that there’s a connection beyond words. You start to recognize their needs even before they can speak. And in return, your child gives you a love that feels unbreakable.

That bond doesn’t just affect your relationship with your child—it shapes the way you see the world. You become more present, more patient, and more tuned in to the people around you. It’s one of the most profound changes that come with motherhood.

In the End, Motherhood Changes Us for the Better

Motherhood is challenging, but it’s also one of the most rewarding journeys you’ll ever go on. It teaches you to be strong in ways you didn’t know you could be and opens your heart to a love deeper than you’ve ever experienced. And in all of this, you’re not just a mom—you’re a stronger, more compassionate, and more powerful version of yourself.

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Shubha Shashidhar published in Blogs

Teenage friendship and Redflags

“If you see the red flag flutter too many times it’s time to uproot the flag” A friendship is meant to make you feel secure and strong.
Pre teens and during teens kids invest in friendship emotionally.

During teens when at times the world comes crushing down its the friendly banter with a friend which often
helps teenagers tide the troubles.

“A friend in need is a friend indeed” ..a most common quote ,yet no other quote defines friendship better.A friend can do, what no one else can do during stressful teenage  times or as a matter fact during any phase of life.
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A friendship forged during teen times in school or early college years stays permanently all through life.

However as teens one can be overly dependent on ones friends.This can lead to clingy behaviour, giving in to the unreasonable demands of friend and relying excessively on the validation of friends.This eventually leads to irritation and depleted sense of self worth.
As teens our kids should be able to decode red flags in a friendship and if more than three to four checkpoints are ticked , they must face the bitter truth and move out of a such a friendship.
Let’s decode few prominent redflags..once decoded…
Uproot the flags  and move away from such a friendship
1)When friends  often cross your boundaries and cross limits of decency.
2)When  they bully you and tease you knowing well that it hurts you immensely.
3) When they break your trust and spread and share your inner most feelings and heartfelt secrets with others without remorse .
3)When they mock you incessantly infront of new friends and lesser known people, making you feel small and uncomfortable.
4)When their needs are always on top of your needs, a sure shot red flag .
5)When excessive money borrowing takes place without any sense of gratitude and subsequent non  return of money, kindly spot the red flag.
6)When the teenger ‘s self worth is undermined repeatedly andhe/she  feels ashamed of one’s  self ,just drop the friend.

There are number of many such red flags which teens need to keep an eye on before forging into any friendship or even while having a strong bond .

One way to tackle these redflags is to put across relevant points with force  and make the other person understand how one feels and why one feels betrayed.
The second way is to gracefully exit from such a bond because such a  friend is not worth your time and effort.
Generally teens look for sense of belonging and camaraderie in friendship.Hence , when they feel that a friend is traumatizing them they feel  a sense of betrayal .

A teenage boy/girl is already facing and undergoing tremendous amount of harmonal activities and bodily changes . During this stressful time they look for succour from their friends. When during such tough times they face red flagged friendships they are left baffled and heartbroken.
As a parent we can contribute positively and connect with our child during  only if we are mindful and are present to listen to the child without judgements and verdicts .
The teenger should feel no matter what happens with  friends  parents will stand by him and will not betray him /her ever.
This sense of trust will help the child navigate a difficult friendship and sense of losss.
As parent we must slowly start preparing our kids from mid school level for such situations and fallout  in life.
We must keep talking about the importance of self worth and self reflection.
Remain connected with your child to spot the red flags .
Patience and positive out look will help us  help our children.
Even if we are colour blind we can spot the red flag …We need to feel it.
Let’s teach this art to our  children.

 

 

 

 

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